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So sorry to tell you that little Ted was put to sleep yesterday. If you follow on Twitter you probably already know this, but for those of you who don’t, I promised I’d keep you updated.

So that, (as they say), is that. Poor little Ted – I am waiting on autopsy results, but they think he almost definitely had FIP which is a deadly virus. It wasn’t fair on the poor little mite to keep him going any longer.

Thanks so much for all of your messages, it has been wonderful to have so many people rooting for Ted and hoping that he got better – unfortunately there was absolutely no amount of praying or hoping that would have made any difference… I will keep you updated about that once I know the definite facts and autopsy results.

In the meanwhile, anyone buying a kitten should definitely insist that all vaccinations are up-to-date (Ted’s were), that the breeder is registered or reputable (Ted’s was) and that the facilities are clean, and kittens bright and alert. If I had known all of the things that I know now, from researching online, I wouldn’t have taken Ted home. He wasn’t alert and there was one kitten in the litter that looked decidedly ill. The breeder said he was just ‘full’ after his feed. Somebody send me the Dunce’s hat…

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168 Responses to Goodnight Ted…

  1. Rebekah says:

    I’m so very, very sorry to hear about little Ted. They become part of the family in such a short space of time.

  2. JezebelInHell says:

    RIP Ted. My kitten Stella will make you company now. She died from the same disease..

  3. Diana says:

    So very sorry Ruth. One of my cats is 13 and is now looking old and frail – I fear she may not be with us much longer…

    please don’t let this put you off having another kitten. They bring so much happiness and love.

    Diana

  4. Tali says:

    Oh hon I just saw this! :( (and just found you on twitter and followed) I am so so sorry! Sending lots of love your way!

  5. UrielxXxEllen says:

    Aw no, I am so sorry to hear that. I had a similar situation with one of my kittens and it was so sad. I hope that you feel better soon x

  6. jill says:

    at least he got lots of love and cuddles from you in his short life
    x

  7. Gillian Pidler says:

    Ruth I am so sorry about little Ted. I have four cats, & have had cats before and losing them is never easy. RIP little baby xxx

  8. Erin says:

    Dear Ruth,
    I am so sorry to hear about Ted…
    Best wishes,
    Erin

  9. k says:

    Aw Ruth, been so poorly after my radiotherapy that I only just read this. So sorry – it seems so unfair when you waited so long and wanted the little mite so much. Glad that hew was so loved, even for a little while. xx

  10. Ali says:

    I’m so sorry Ruth :-(

  11. Ayla says:

    I am so sorry to read that. I hope you will find comfort in the thought that Ted got to spend his last days with people who cared about him.

  12. Magdalena says:

    so sorry to hear that Ruth :’( i hope you ok now and that you will get another animal soon xx

  13. Jessica Gardner says:

    Oh no, oh I am sorry, Ruth. It is the hardest part of having animals, but seems especially wrong when said pet is so young and not yet had a chance to experience the magic in life. I am so sorry. Sometimes the breeder/owner/Vet can do everything right and yet this still happens. I know that doesn’t necessarily help you feel less heart broken, but you need to know this is not a result of your actions, you did everything right for Ted, it sounds like this was the only ending for which the poor little chap was destined.
    I’m so sorry. Sending love,
    Jess x

  14. Shei says:

    I wanted to post my condolences for the loss of your kitten, Ted. Yesterday I found myself doing a bit of Christmas shopping and feeling sad about Ted at the same time. Odd thing about YouTube–you really do feel like you know people you have never met. Again I am so sorry for your loss, and hope that you may get a healthy pet in the future.

  15. bbdg33 says:

    Gutted for you chuck. This is the very reason I’m not having any more pets, having lost two dogs and a horse I am emotionally spent. Take care x

  16. Claire McDonnell says:

    So so sorry to hear about little Ted. I know that I love my little doggy with all my heart and the thought of losing him is unbearable. I hope that you have a really good Christmas xx

  17. Jane says:

    Well we got a rescue cat from a section of the place that was actually in quarantine at the time, and yet he lived for years. We also had a cat who was quiet and inactive her whole life, just because that’s the way she was. With all the will in the world, there is simply no way of telling, so I’m very sorry this happened to you.

  18. Lucy says:

    and you know, Ted would have loved those few days of love he had with you, so you did a great thing, as heart-breaking as it is now xx

  19. Lucy says:

    So sorry, sweetie. Ted was beautiful. I went through a similar thing last year, with a sick kitten who we got from the shelter (we didn’t know she was sick at the time, but Ii’m pleased we got her!)For a few weeks it was touch and go- I even had give her an intravenous drip- ugh, worst thing ever- and I was afraid to go to the toilet in the middle of the night (she stayed in the bathroom) in case she was dead. Luckily she pulled through, but it was a bit of a miracle really. Huge hugs from me. I noticed you looked sad in your last couple of vids, but didn’t know why. Lucy xx

  20. Danielle says:

    Ruth, I am so sad to hear about poor Ted. Best wishes to you and Mr. AMR – this is certainly not your fault :(

  21. Daphne says:

    Oh No! I’m so sorry to hear this :( Poor little guy…I lost my beloved old tabby this summer, and miss her terribly. *hugs*

  22. Hannah says:

    Oh no that is truly tragic. I have only ever had a goldfish and a hamster, so I can’t really say I can relate, but I still offer my condolences, and hopefully you can still have a very Merry Christmas. I find that glitter and chocolate make everything better! xxxxx

  23. Jana says:

    I’m so sorry to hear that! I was genuinely praying for Ted ever since I got the news he hadn’t been well.
    This is really sad and I understand that you are probably feeling miserable, but don’t blame yourself! At least I hope that your advice on the research will help the others reading it when they are picking up a cat, a dog or any animal really.
    You have all our support & understanding, if it helps any.
    xxx

  24. Elizabeth says:

    I took home a farm kitten one time. I had just buried my mother that day and wanted a new life around me. The kitten was throwing up and was half the size of the others. I took it to the vet the next day and then had to rush him to the hospital for a specialist. After the x-rays the vet didn’t think he would ever be normal ( even after surgery which he may or may not survive). He was unable to swallow properly due to a genetic defect. I don’t regret adopting him. I only had him less than 24 hr’s but I really loved him. He would have just starved to death on the farm. I subsequently got another kitten that was being fostered ( after being found outside in the bed of a truck)and he is now 12 yr’s old.

  25. Kimpy says:

    I’m so sorry Ruth, he looked such a lovely cat, its so sad he never got to really live! But really, you can’t blame yourself – it sounds like a very serious virus! I just hope it doesn’t put you off getting another cat in the future, I think you’ll be a wonderful owner and despite these sad sad times, there are so many to be had still :) All my best wishes x

  26. Amaltée Fox says:

    Hey Ruth,
    you gave Ted the best life he could hope for, even if it was only for a short while. There – something positiv to dwell on.
    So sorry for your loss.

  27. I’m so incredibly sorry, what a terrible thing to go through with something so tiny and new. And try and think that bc you picked him he had last days with someone giving him care and love. I hope one day you’ll find another little one, it breaks your heart to lose them, but it doesn’t ever outweigh the joy of having them. Take care and holiday wishes, xoxo

  28. Kelley says:

    Dear Ruth,
    My daughter and I prayed for you and your kitten and we are so sorry he didnt pull through. We felt how excited you were from your posts. You did everything you could and Ted was a lucky boy to have you in his life. My Mum had a similar experience with one of her puppies. She noticed her puppy was sick only a couple of days after receiving her. She had bonded immediately with her puppy as you had with Ted. She spent a fortune with the vet but couldnt save her. The breeder did reimburse her. It isnt about the money but the breeder needs to know about this situation. A reputable breeder will stand by their animals. You have had a lot of grief but I recommend you do follow up with the breeder if you have not already. So sorry for your loss. We love that breed of cat too!

  29. naomi says:

    Heather clearly someone replaced your heart with a brick, i love British blue cats as does Ruth, you pick a certain cat because you want a pet not because it is a fashion accessory

  30. Banshee says:

    As a Skogkatt breeder I think a story like this is unacceptable, shame on Ted’s breeders ! I’m really sorry for you, for the poor Ted, its so sad…

  31. leidand says:

    RIP little Ted. I love animals but can never get myself a pet because I would be heartbroken if something like this happened to them. When I was little I had a canary bird. She lived to be ten and had a happy life (I’d like to believe). I cried for months when she finally left for pet heaven. You are such a nice person, Ruth, hope you have a happy Christmas despite of what happened x

  32. emily says:

    My heart goes out to you both, Ruth, me and my husband dote on our cats, who have given us five years of joy and laughter, but like you we lost our first kitten to FIP – and he was a moggy who came from a shelter, for anyone who wants to make stupid comments about rescue animals being healthier – but this is not the time and place for that, only for saying to Ruth and Mr AMR, our thoughts are with you, we know how hard it is. x x

  33. Nichola says:

    Ruth, I’ve been reading your blog almost every day for some time now, you are such an inspiring woman and it is really a tragedy that something so sad has happened in your life.
    I have 3 cats myself and it has brought a tear to my eye reading about you ordeal, and poor little Ted’s illness.
    As others have said, you certainly don’t deserve such misfortune and it is clearly not your fault. I’m sure that you have actually helped Ted to find some peace, love and security in his short life.
    May you and your family still have a very happy Christmas and as the New Year approaches you should know that the work you put in every day is having a positive impact in many people’s lives – just look at how many people have commented on this thread.
    Love.

  34. FR says:

    Very sorry to hear this Ruth. I totally appreciate your point about sourcing the right breeder and being aware of viruses and checking fanily histories etc. Its hugely important.

  35. nazneen372 says:

    I’m so sorry Ruth. He was so adorable, and my heart goes out to you. Kittens are very fragile little things, susceptible to lots of illnesses, and one of ours just made it back from the worst case of cat flu our vet had ever seen, one side of her oesophagus is paralysed and she makes pitiful wheezing sounds. We call her The Cat Who Lived, as per Harry Potter, as she is our little feline miracle. I was hoping for that miracle for you.

    You were so excited about Ted’s arrival, I could read it in every post, and I was so excited for you. He was lovely, and I’m glad he had you to fight his corner for him when he most needed it. I hope you’ll be able to give that care to another little feline being when the time’s right for you. Until then, many hugs to you xxx

  36. Becca says:

    I’m so, so sorry for your loss Ruth. That it should happen during the holidays is even worse. I hope that you can still have a merry Christmas and (though I’m sure it’s too soon to think of), that once you’re done grieving for your poor baby, you might consider giving it a second shot.

  37. flick says:

    Very sorry to hear this. Hope you take some time to pamper yourself and recover. xx

  38. Ina says:

    I’m so sorry for you and your little darling, Ruth! But there’s nothing that you could have done, FIP is a very dangerous disease and it was best for the poor kitty to not prolong his suffering. But I agree with Verena, report that breeder! And hopefully you can find a new kitten to fill the void that dear Ted has left. Maybe not now, but there are so many beautiful little furballs waiting for a loving home. I’m sure one of them is out there, destined to be your cat companion for a long and happy life!

  39. Alexis says:

    Ruth,
    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss of Ted. It is never easy to loose a loved one. Your news made me a bit teary as I can very much sympathize, I lost my dear childhood tabby cat a few years ago. They really become family.

    xx

  40. Marta says:

    I´m really sorry about poor little Ted. I tried to give you hope and I´m really sorry it didn´t happen. I´m sure he had a happy short life and you help him out the best way to pass his way comfortable and loved. Try no to be to sad. Love and kisses from Madrid

  41. Sarah says:

    Aww, poor little Ted. I’m really sorry to hear that Ruth. I don’t know what to say really, except that I know how much it hurts, losing a pet. He knew happiness and love if only for a short time. And he is in peace now and not suffering anymore. xx

  42. Tonya says:

    You made the most caring and responsible decision possible in regard to Ted’s situation. He was lucky to have you and your husband as his family. I’m so sorry for your loss.

    If I were you I would make sure Ted’s breeder is exposed as less than reputable so that no more amimals and their new families have to experience this.

  43. Lilllisal says:

    So sorry to hear about Ted. A very similar thing happened to me years ago with a kitten I adopted from animal welfare. Please don’t think for a second that there was anything you could/should have done differently, sometimes tragic things like this happen. At the very least Ted spent his final days in a loving environment and that must have made a huge difference to his short life. My heart goes out to you at this unhappy time.

  44. Looarah says:

    So sorry xxx least he’s in peace now and didn’t know what was happening. P.s Heather I can understand where you’re coming from but you could have phrased it better… Plus this really isn’t the time or place. There are some BEAUTIFUL cat breeds that you can only get from breeders and that ppl adore… This doesn’t mean U treat them as accessories. Anyway enough drama. Hope Ted is the only one in the litter who was affected xxxx

  45. Cheryl Morris says:

    I’m so sorry Ruth – for Ted and for you. I agree with Charlie V – I;m so glad that Ted spent his hsort life know ing how much you loved him and cared for him. But that doesn’t ease your sense of loss. I only wish I could write something to make it better.

  46. sarah says:

    Ruth, So sorry to hear about your kitten. It sounds to me like he needed a bit of love and kindness in his short life and that’s what he got from you when you took him home. I hope you can find some comfort knowing that you did the best you could for him and he experienced being cared for and looked after.
    Sarah

  47. Debbie says:

    Ruth, I’m so sorry that gorgeous little Ted din’t make it… Very sad news for you. I also just wanted to mention to @Heather, if it wasn’t meant to be a nasty comment.. Why did you say Ruth only chose that breed because Lisa Eldridge had one… Clearly that is a cutting comment in anyones book…
    Hope you have a lovely Christmas & New year Ruth Xx

  48. Terribly, terribly sorry, Ruth! Being a cat owner, this makes me really sad. Will try and cuddle my cat extra when I get home on Friday! (Although he probably won’t be having any of it because they never do if you want to. Ha!)

    X

    PS. I agree with Nemain. Even as a cat owner, telling if a cat you don’t know is sick is very hard if not impossible. Consider reporting the breeder to spare other people and other cats the same experience.

  49. Margarita says:

    No!!!!! This broke my heart!!! Little kittens should never suffer! So sorry, Ruth… So so sorry… My parents lost their tiny kitten too, and he had to suffer a lot and vets could do nothing, I am so sorry, I am crying with you. So sad…

  50. Ellie says:

    Such sad news, hope Ted is having fun getting into trouble in heaven x

  51. kit says:

    So sorry about Ted. It’s heartbreaking to watch an animal suffer and to loose a pet, whether that pet has been with us for 20 years or 2 weeks. Poor little guy never had a chance, but it sounds as if you did everything you could. Is there any way you can report a breeder that’s behaved the way yours did?

  52. alice says:

    Dear Ruth
    I’m so sorry to read the news about little Ted. My thoughts are with you and your husband. I wish I could give you the biggest hug ever. My Grandma used to say that things happen for a reason and perhaps that’s true. Maybe without knowing it, you picked Ted because he needed a good loving home where he would get the best care. In the time he was with you he was very much loved and he received the best medical attention possible. The sad truth is that in today’s world with the economy the way it is, so many poor animals get dumped as soon as they get old or sick, and start costing money, so Ted was a very lucky little kitten. You did the best you could for him and when it came time, you set him free and didn’t allow him to suffer. Very hard on you, but very kind for him.

    Please don’t say that you won’t ever mention him again. I know you’re heartbroken now, but when you get to the point where you think you might want to share more thoughts or memories or pictures, please do so. I speak for everybody here when I stay that we would love to hear them. Talking really does help as you can see from all the people who have shared their own stories here and left you such lovely comments. A trouble shared is a trouble halved. (another of my Grandma’s wise sayings)

    With love and kind thoughts from South Africa
    Alice xx

  53. Annette says:

    Buying from a breeder is the most responsible way to adopt an animal! They’re health checked and only the best natured animals are mated. Also by choosing a good pro breeder you’re discouraging what they call ‘back yard breeders’ from reproducing animals that often aren’t health tested or pedigrees and end up sold cheaply (don’t buy from a BYB – it encourages them) or given away to people who haven’t thought about what they’re taking on. This contributes to animal sanctuaries being full of unwanted pets. I bought my Boxer from a very good breeder 7 years ago because i wanted a nice natured, healthy pet with a ‘boxer’ personality and no heart or hip problems. I wanted him badly, i waited and i saved up, like Ruth. Each race of dog or cat has a distinct personality and it’s own beauty and i’m sure that’s why Ruth chose a British Shorthair. Don’t blame the people who adopt animals responsibly, blame the ones who breed them irresponsibly and the ones abandoning them so they end up in sanctuaries. Ruth, you did your homework and were unfortunately very unlucky – you don’t deserve any negative comments. X

  54. Bella says:

    I am so sorry to hear about Ted :(
    I know the feeling of having to say goodbye to a beloved little pet. At least for his short time on earth he got to be loved and cared for by someone as special as yourself, and that is the best thing Ted could of ever had.
    Bella xo

  55. Sue says:

    @ Ruth … I’m so sorry. Huge hugs and love, my heart aches for you… wish it wasn’t so xxxxx

  56. Sue says:

    @ Heather and whoever else has or is even thinking of posting similar, how inappropriate, stupid, spiteful, selfish and evil do you want the rest of us to think you are? Santa must be bringing you s**t for Xmas, never mind coal!!!

  57. Cecilie says:

    Oh Ruth, how incredibly sad! So sorry to hear about Ted.

  58. Rebecca says:

    Ruth,
    Sorry for the vent to Heather. You are the dearest lady I have never met, and I suppose my instincts to defend a sister came out! My thoughts are with you. Goodbye to sweet Ted. When you feel up to it, I think you should try again.
    Rebecca

  59. Helene says:

    Hi Ruth
    I’m terribly sorry to hear that Ted didn’t make it. I’m a fellow cat lover and cats have been a part of my life pretty much since infancy, and although they pass away each and every one of them will continue to hold a special place in my heart as I’m sure Ted will continue to do so in yours. From someone who’s been through a similar situation I promise you that although thiss loss will be really difficult to deal with, better days are ahead. And maybe at some point when you feel it’s the right time and when you’re ready (in three months or three years) another furry little monster will come into your life and make the memory of the loss of Ted more bearable. No other cat will ever be able to replace the one you’ve lost but I hope the loss of Ted doesn’t stop you from ever having a cat again.
    Ruth, I send you all my love, as heartbreaking as it is I’m sure Ted is in a better place now.
    xxx

  60. Rebecca says:

    @Heather. You may not be aware / want to admit, but creatures are not given one or the other: beauty or brains. MANY possess both. Case and point: lovely, wise and witty Ruth herself. If your ridiculously rude comment which you attempt to veil behind altruistic practicality stems from feeling bad about yourself for some reason, perhaps you fear you lack one or the other of theae virtues, I would suggest you invest your time in healing your own self image and not presume to scatter your sadness through cruelty to others.

  61. Anna says:

    So sorry to hear about Ted.

  62. sugarcoated says:

    Ruth, I’m very sorry to hear that and I feel for you. Again, big hug from over here.

    Don’t let anyone get to you with silly comments. It’s not worth your while.

    I do hope that when you have recovered from the loss you will be courageous enough to opt for another cat. A pet really does enrich your life.

    Eva

  63. Kim says:

    So sorry to hear this Ruth. I must admit I too was always one to role my eyes at people becoming inconsolable at the loss of a pet, that was until I lost my beloved moggy earlier this year and spent the best part of 2 days crying my eyes out! I’m not sure if you’re thinking about getting another kitten, but we did and I really recommend it, while they can never replace the lost one they have an uncanny ability to cheer you up :) Either way, take care and I do hope you feel better soon xx

  64. Sarah says:

    I’m so sorry for you and little ted :(

  65. Jennifer says:

    Ohhh, Ruth, I’m so sorry to hear about your loss of poor little Ted; such sad news indeed :’( He is resting peacefully for eternity.

  66. Sabrina says:

    Poor Ted :’(

  67. Ms Red says:

    Awwww bless his soul :(

    It’s heart breaking when things like this happen, I thank goodness my porker is hale and hearty.

    xx

    Ms Red

    p.s Dear Heather, where Ruth decides to get her cats is NONE of your business so go bore off.

  68. Vanessa says:

    Hi Ruth,

    A note to let you know that your story, and Ted’s touched me greatly. I am very sorry you lost your little friend but am sure your care in his last days was appreciated. It sucks to lose our pets, but courage cherie, you did your best and sometimes bad things just happen.
    Many of us are thinking of you, all the best
    Vanessa

    (P.S – can you block that horrible Heather woman?! I can’t believe she took advantage of your loss to get on a soapbox about her issues – CLUELESS and cruel)

  69. Dom Azavedo says:

    @Heather maybe you should think before you type in future. What you wrote was extremely insensitive and unnecessary, and I find it very hard to believe that you didn’t mean it in an unkind way. I say this as someone who is not an animal lover by any means, but any loss is difficult, especially at this time of year.

  70. Liz says:

    Ruth, I am so, so very sorry. Please don’t beat yourself up. This is not your fault.

    It is never easy to lose a friend, I know. I feel so terrible for your loss, and for poor little Ted. Again, I am so sorry.

  71. Maria Bent says:

    I’m very sorry. Try no to blame yourself. Over the past 30 years, though I’ve had a cat and a dog who lived almost to be 20, I’ve lost many animals due to some stupid disease or simply from old age, so I know that in this situation one always has the tendency to blame oneself, to think that one could have done more even if that’s not the case. In moments of great sorrow, I find some consolation in the support of my family and friends and in the arts: music, poetry…I hope this works for you too. x

  72. Amy says:

    I am so sorry Ruth that you have lost Ted to cat heaven. Don’t waste anymore of your energy arguing with ‘H’, she ain’t worth it :-) It doesn’t matter where you adopt a cat from, these horrible diseases can affect them whether they come from breeders, or rescue centres. I can speak honestly about that, as my family recently lost a kitten to the same disease and this kitten came from a rescue centre where vets check on them all the time. You have totally loved him and totally done the right thing – he won’t have hurt and will be sleeping peacefully now knowing that he was very much loved. All the Best, and lots of hugs. xx

  73. Helen says:

    Ruth, I felt alot of sadness when I read your twitter that Ted has to be put down (for the best, ofc). I really hope that you’ll be able to get through Christmas without feeling guilty in anyway (as in your previous post, you mentioned about not taking Ted earlier to the vets :( ). Like so many people who posted here, you’re a first time cat owner, and anyone doing anything for the first time, wouldn’t be as savvy as someone who’s had a pet for ten years, so there isn’t a way you could have known what was wrong with little Ted. But your instinct about was right (that Ted wasn’t very enthusiastic), and I hope that you can take this experience forward and follow your heart in the future should you wish to have another cat, I believe that you’ll be such an amazing pet owner and you’ll shower your pet with tonnes of love (and toys!). I am really sorry about Ted, I have a friend who has a cat and I already love him to bits, so I can imagine what grief you’re going through to lose a pet like that (to be sold an ill kitten). Speaking of the breeder, she should be held responsible for what she did, I hope the autopsy results will provide enough evidence to stop her from breeding cats (or anything,although my angry self probably wouldn’t object to a yeast infection) in the future. You have my thoughts and prayers xxx *hugs*

  74. Megan says:

    First and foremost, I am sorry for the loss of your Ted. I have had a Russian Blue for 9 yrs and will be crushed when her time comes. You did your best, but unfortunately those diseases happen.

    As for vile comments like the one Heather left, people like her say spiteful and negative things and just don’t have any bit of self-awareness to ever realize how hurtful they can be. I feel bad for people like that, they are only hurting themselves in the end.

    My poor grandmother passed away last week, and the two weeks prior to her death I was pretty hurt by what was happening. My sweet cat sensed something and sat either on my lap or laid on my chest with her head nestled in my collar bone. She normally likes to just sit next to me. She is purebred, and if that isn’t personality then I don’t know what is. It’s a shame that people feel the need to preach their ignorant thoughts!

  75. Véro says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss Ruth :( I’ve never commented on here as I can’t speak fluent English but really this has upset me so much :( He was so young and cute, and even if not that’s so sad and unfair. I also had a ten-year-old cat who died from a horrible disease and I know how it’s hard to deal with it…
    Lots of kisses from France and “haut les coeurs” <3..

  76. Andrea says:

    I’m so sorry for you Ruth. Ted was simply gorgeous so it must have been very hard for you to say goodbye. I really hoped that he was going to pulll through. As I said last time, I’ve had many cats and a dog in the past so I know how difficult these times are. I currently have a hamster and people find it odd that I am attached to her but I have looked after her daily for 18 months and she has her own little personality so I’ll be really sad when she goes! (Which won’t be long, unfortunately)

  77. Carla says:

    Ruth, sorry to read such devastating news. I bought my first puppy from a breeder after doing lots of research, and now I would love to get a rescue dog. Perhaps you can go have a look at the cats and kittens at Battersea in the new year to help fill the hole in your heart and do a good deed. Little Ted looked so sweet in the pics you posted. I hope you feel better soon. xx

  78. Sarirah says:

    Rest In Peace Ted. This is so sad but it sounds like it was for the best. I hope that in the future you will be able to care for another cat. :)

    I’ve also made the mistake of taking home two kittens that were in fact ill and I just believed the owners when they said that all their vaccines were up to date etc. It definitely makes you more aware for the future!

  79. Moofy says:

    Poor little Ted. :( You did your best for him though. And even though he was only here for a short while, he was incredibly loved by you both. Take care.

  80. Amigurumigirl says:

    Aw, Ruth, I’m so sorry he didn’t make it. :( It’s that much harder when they go as babies, isn’t it? My husband and I had a good bawl when our kitten couldn’t make it. Anyway, My thoughts are with you and I send lots of virtual hugs. Take care!

  81. love in a mist says:

    Heather you silly woman, of course your comments are hurtful and totally un necessary, if you can’t see that then I pity you.

  82. s says:

    Ruth so sorry about poor ted but at least he won’t suffer any more x

  83. Theresa says:

    Ruth, I am so sorry for your loss. Is the virus airborne? If so, ask your vet what you can do in your home to prevent another kitten from becoming infected. Unfortunately, I speak from experience….I lost 2 puppies due to an airborne virus. Feel better, dear.

  84. Carly says:

    Hi Ruth,

    So sad to hear about poor Ted. He was so beautiful!

    Hope you feel better soon.
    x

  85. love in a mist says:

    Ruth I am genuinely so very sorry to hear about little Ted, you must be devastated, I was thinking about both of you all weekend. Bless you for carrying on posting on here, big virtual hug from me and Mollie xxxxx
    please don’t let this put you off getting another kitten, when the time is right, you’ll know, and you will find another furry friend to love I’m sure of it.
    Take care Jenny xxxx

  86. Kim says:

    I am so sorry about Ted :( I have been a reader here a long time but first comment. You seem like such a lovely person and I feel heartbroken for you. Like literally, in tears. I have a British shorthair called Mittens. I love him so much. I lost my other cat last year and that was heartbreaking too. Don’t feel like you are harping on about it, you are human and we all feel for you. And as a stranger it may sound weird, but I feel like I really care and feel really sad. I hope you don’t get put off ever getting another British shorthair kitten. I hope you can manage to have a nice Christmas in spite of all this you poor thing. Ted was lucky to have you as an owner for the short amount of time he was here. Xxx

  87. Ben says:

    Ruth, I am so so sorry for your loss. I’ve never had a cat myself, so can’t fully relate, but relatives and close friends have lost cats in the past and I’ve seen how horrible it can be. I’m sure your decision was for the best, and at least you had a brief time of happiness with him! R.I.P Ted! x

  88. Abigail says:

    I had to reply to Heather – knock it off!!! Ruth has had a terrible few weeks and she doesn’t need you making such thoughtless comments. If you have ever been in the heartbreaking position of having lost a beloved pet, you would understand how insensitive your comments are. Also if you believe pedigree cats don’t have a personality, you obviously have never interacted with one.

    Ruth, I am so desperately sorry, I was so hoping for a happy outcome. The pain won’t be quite so raw in time, be good to yourself and know you did your absolute best for little Ted and thanks to you, he knew love and joy for the brief time he was here.

  89. Monica says:

    I feel sorry for Ted and for you. That happened many times when people buy pets, if you see the factory pets , you would understend . It is much better to adopt pet in some shelter . Take care!!!

  90. Izzy says:

    @Heather, what the fuck? What on EARTH has Ted’s unfortunate illness got to do with whether or not he’s ‘fashionable’? Why does that mean that Ted had no ‘personality’? What the hell are you on about?! All cats have personalities! Unfortunately so do humans, and yours is cruel and vindictive. Bloody horrible.

  91. Katrina says:

    Aw, I’m so sorry :( Poor Ted.

    Reading all these comments is getting me a bit teary (well, apart from *that* one, I just want to punch her in the head) and making me miss my cat. Thankfully, he’s alive and well (just fat) but he lives on the other side of the world from me now.

  92. Heather says:

    It wasn’t a nasty comment, AT ALL. Too many people now a days get a pet for the wrong reason. Why would someone spend hundreds of pounds on a cat from a breeder when you can get a cat from a sanctuary/animal home for free and simply make a donation? They also have vets working their so you know the animal will be healthy. I really think you took my comment the wrong way. I simply do not like the whole idea of everyone buying animals because they look cute, get a pet with a personality not because it’s so expensive and uncommon

    • Ruth says:

      @Heather how is that not nasty? I’ve just had a terrible couple of weeks losing a pet that I chose very carefully, that I wanted for AGES? It’s my choice to buy from a breeder and there’s nothing wrong with that – I know plenty of people who have rehomed from a shelter who have also lost a cat to FIP so his origins, as it were, are irrelevant. For crying out loud – I’m 31, not 15 – I’m a bit past choosing a pet as a fashion accessory!

  93. Sylvia says:

    Oh Ruth, I’m so sorry. I cried for ages when our old family cats died, and I hope it doesn’t ruin your Christmas.
    We had to wait a year before getting new cats even began to feel ‘right’ again.

  94. Monica says:

    Hello Ruth- I am so so very sorry for your loss, but I wouldnt get out the dunce cap right away. A lot of your trust was put into the breeder that sold you poor Ted. She’s the one that spend 12 weeks with him and his siblings before selling him to you. Therefore she would have been the first to know something was not right. As a first time kitten owner, how were you supposed to know something was not right? There’s such a element of trust when buying a purebred, a lot of faith has to be put into the breeder. Even a kitten that is well will be somewhat reserved in behavior when moved into a new house. Don’t beat yourself up, poor Ted was very ill, it was massively irresponsible to have him sold to you to sickly, it’s not fair and not right.
    Hang in there, and please don’t let this experience sour you in getting a new cat. It won’t replace the hole in your heart, but it is possible to make room for a new kitten without forgetting the previous one. x

    • Ruth says:

      Thanks so much for your comments everyone – really, very comforting. I won’t ever mention Ted again, probably, as I don’t want to be a mad harping-on typed lady, but I really have appreciated all of your thoughts and little stories. Who knew I had so many animal-lover readers? Maybe there should be a regular pet-forum! xx

  95. Stacey says:

    Ruth, I’ve already left you a comment on Twitter, I was rooting for Ted to make a full recovery. I’m so sorry he didn’t make it, sending you cyber hugs my love. RIP Ted xxx

  96. Alexa says:

    Poor little Ted, he has such a sad look! I know you did everything you could for Ted…

  97. Catherine says:

    No you don’t need a dunce’s hat. The breeder had to have known there was something wrong with that litter. I just feel so sorry for you and for Ted who had such a short life. I do hope this won’t put you off having other cats. We have had 5 over the years, one lived till nearly 20, the 2 we have now are age 4 and 16 and they give us so much pleasure. Your story has upset me so much,I just want you to know I am thinking of you.
    Take care, Catherine xx

  98. joanna galloway says:

    Oh Ruth im so sorry to hear the news…. i was really hoping they would be different. You were not to know that the breeder was having you on….you trusted her and she betrayed your trust as she would have known something was not quite right. We did the same when we bought a choc lab- she was supposed to be pedigree turns out she never was and £1000′s of pounds later she is not the dog (health wise) we wanted- she has hip and knee problems and will never live a long time, but having said that she has the sweetest nature ever and we love her so much despite everything. Do not let this bad luck with Ted put you off having a pet in the future – there are reputable and trustworthy breeders out there and you deserve to have a little fluffy ball of fun to love and care for as they really do bring you so much happiness. Lots of hugs, Jo xxxx

  99. Mel says:

    Im so sorry to hear that he was so poorly- although it sounds cliche he is free from any pain and suffering.

    I hope YOU are as ok as you can be as although you didnt have him long its surprising how much they become a part of your life

    xxx

  100. Joana Richard says:

    Im so sorry Ruth…it was the best for him…

    Try to have a lovely little christmas

    Huge kiss
    Joana Richard

  101. Saara says:

    So sorry to hear that Ted’s gone. At least he’s not suffering now, it was the humane thing to do.

  102. Tammy says:

    Rest in peace Ted, you were a beautiful sweet boy.

  103. Blushmetweetme says:

    I am so sorry. With all my heart I truly am.

  104. Hara says:

    I’m so sorry, Ruth. I spent the entire weekend and yesterday worrying about Ted and you, and desperately hoping he’d pull through. It’s never easy when a pet dies, although we know when we take them in that we’re going to outlive them. Will you be thinking of getting another kitten? When my Scully died, I got a new kitten a couple of weeks later; I just couldn’t imagine living my life without a cat in it. Wishing you all the best and Merry Christmas.

  105. stefa says:

    Ruth, I’m so sorry to read this, both you and Ted deserved far, far better. I hope that there is some action that can be taken against the breeder as (it seems)that (s)he mislead you about the kittens which is not only so cruel to you but also those poor kittens. Sending you lots of love xxx

  106. Sara says:

    Ruth, I am so sorry. I really was rooting for the little guy. Thank you for letting us know. And you’re right, at a certain point, there is nothing anyone can do. I hope you are ok.

  107. Chelle says:

    Please report your breeder to the RSPCA. Their animal cruelty number is 0300 1234 999. Prevent them from continuing to cause distress to these cats and their new owners. Chelle x

  108. Trizzie says:

    Oh Ruth, I have been reading you for a long time but never commented before, but today I couldn’t help myself, so sorry to hear about poor Ted…I know what it feels like and it’s so sad to lose a pet, specially that way…but c’est la vie. Kisses from Spain, and Merry Xmas! :)

  109. Sugarpuffish says:

    I’m so sorry to hear that you lost Ted, it’s a really awful thing to happen.

  110. So sorry to read the news on twitter. Poor little guy. We get so attached very quickly to our furry friends. Hope he wasn’t in pain xx

  111. jenny says:

    Oh no! RIP Ted. :-(

  112. Alex T says:

    I’m very sad to hear this terrible news. I had a similar experience with a puppy 5 years ago and it broke my heart. All I would say to you is don’t let it put you off getting another pet if that’s what you want. It isn’t that you’re replacing them, its just that the same want that prompted you to get the first pet remains. I got another dog who is healthy happy and has been a great companion for the last few years and I’m so glad I did, but I will never forget the poor little one who didn’t make it. My heart goes out to you at this awful time. Xxx

  113. I am so very sorry Ruth, poor little Ted :’(

  114. lizziee says:

    My friend also bought a kitten from a breeder and he died a few weeks later too. It’s awful. You did right not letting little Ted suffer xx

  115. Beth Maiorana says:

    It’s 5 am here in Pittsburgh, and it’s nearly Christmas and I’m feeling an amount of pressure this week. I am hardly awake but I have been eager for Tuesday to arrive because this would be the day you tell us of Ted’s fate. I have never cried before at this hour about anything ever: I am so moved (to tears) at your tenderness, Ruth. What a lovely human being you are to have cared for him so diligently and so completely. Thank you for your gorgeous humanity and mostly, thanks for sharing Ted with us. Rest in Peace,little valiant Ted. It’s so lovely that in his short life, he was gently loved. You are magnificent, Ruth. xoxo Beth in Pgh

  116. Shelley says:

    Oh Ruth, I am so sorry to hear that. He was a beautiful kitten and I’m sure his short little life was a happy one with you.

    As sad as it is, the right decision was made and he can sleep peacefully now.

    Best wishes,
    Shelley

  117. Beata says:

    I am so sorry, I know how it feels to lose ones pet, especially during the holidays. I know it’s not much comfort but the pain will go away. I sincerely hope that you will feel better soon.

  118. Zendadachick says:

    I’m so sorry! R.I.P Ted. At least he left this earth knowing he was loved by you!

    I know what it’s like to lose a pet, I lost my dog and best friend at the great age of 17. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve had your pet for, 2 days, 2 years. Once you’ve established a bond, it’s forever.

  119. Paola says:

    So sad. I know what it means, and hope your little Ted is now playing with my little Pele in a kind of Kitty Heaven! No Dunce’s hats…just a big hug from Italy.

  120. Twelve52 says:

    Sorry to hear this Ruth, it’s always horrible losing a pet, never mind when it’s so premature. Poor little Ted. Hope you’re OK.

  121. Martha says:

    That’s so sad :(
    Poor kitty, I am really sorry Ruth :(
    IMHO that breeder deserves to be filed a complaint

  122. Natalie says:

    So sorry x

  123. Chantelle says:

    I am SO sorry to hear about Ted. You’re in my thoughts during this sad time.

  124. Marian says:

    Sorry to hear about Ted… he was a beautiful cat. It’s not easy to say goodbye to something so small and sweet. I fostered 3 six week old kittens from a well known animal rescue home and they were fine for a while and then they started to sleep for ages and not eat much and not clean themselves… I took them back to the Dublin SPCA (I’m Irish) and they said they’d keep them in over night for tests and to ring the next day to organise collecting them… I rang back the next day and was told they were all put to sleep!! They had a contagious virus that could spread to other animal in the centre. I sobbed on the phone and the vet nurse didn’t know what to say…. I haven’t fostered since even though I love animals. I hope your ok and you have a great Christmas…. Love your YouTube channel too

    See ya
    Marian

  125. Misspapadita says:

    **HUGS**

  126. Aoife says:

    I’m so sorry Ruth. I know how upset you and Mr AMR must feel. My first kitten had to be put down about a week after we got her as she was attacked by another cat. I cried for days afterwards. Don’t let this experience stop you from getting another kitten though. We finally got another kitten and thankfully he is still with us.

  127. Debbie says:

    Until you have experienced the love you feel for a pet it’s hard to understand, similarly the dreadful sadness of losing one, my heart goes out to you. xx

  128. Ola says:

    Hi Ruth. So sorry to hear about little Ted – it is a terrible feeling to lose a pet but I hope you feel better soon. Hang in there. xx

  129. Alice says:

    Oh no :(. I’m so sorry so hear this Ruth, poor poor Ted. I had a similar experience with a new puppy last year. It’s heartbreaking, but at least he is no longer suffering. I do hope you’re ok, I know that everyone is thinking of you! x

  130. Kitty says:

    Ruth, I am so sorry. But it is not your fault. Also from what you’ve said I think the breeder should have been more helpful, if not more responsible as well. I’m sure Ted loved every moment spent with you both. He will always be in our thoughts.

  131. Julia says:

    So sorry to hear this. Goodnight Ted. I’m sure he was loved and well cared for by you and Mr AMR, sounds like you did the right thing however difficult. It’s never easy, we had to put the family cat to sleep a few years ago and it’s very sad but at least wee Ted had compassionate and caring owners who looked after him so well!

  132. Jeanette says:

    Oh no, I am so sorry!
    Lots of love from Norway!
    <3

  133. Victoria says:

    I’m so very sorry for your loss. But you did the best thing for Ted and with that you were a great pet owner. I wish you lots of love, warmth and strength during the holidays.

    xo

  134. Heather says:

    Maybe if you decide to get a cat in the future you could get a cat from a sanctuary/cat’s home rather than the latest fashionable cat. Always go for a cat with personality rather than because Lisa Eldridge has one

    • Ruth says:

      @”Heather” WOW. What a horrible thing to say. I have wanted that ‘fashionable’ cat since god knows when, and certainly not because somebody who I hardly know has one! Please be aware that I can trace comments – I’ve just sent you a lovely email! Please don’t comment again or enter the giveaways as I see you have done in the past. Have a wonderful Christmas.

  135. Nicola says:

    Hi Ruth,
    That’s truly sad poor little thing. I lost my cat coco, a Maine Coone, almost a year ago from the same issues with a deadly virus. It’s usually passed down from the mum or dad, very important that the breeder has checked the mum and dad for any known deformaties and illnesses related to the breed.

    We ended up with two rescue kittens. To be honest if your looking for a cat with few problems get a moggy!

    xxN

  136. Kirsty says:

    Oh Ruth, I’m truly sorry. I was really rooting for your boy to pull through. It’s really sad and unfair that he never really stood a chance, despite your loving care.

    I’ll be thinking of you guys today.
    Best wishes, Kirsty x

  137. Ruby Blue says:

    I’m so sorry for you, and Ted :(

  138. Ruth says:

    So sorry to hear this news. Or 7y old dog had to be put down suddenly yesterday and I’m heartbroken too so completely understand what you must be feeling right now, it’s devastating. The only thing that is helping me today is knowing that it was completely the right thing to do – no animal should suffer unnecessarily.
    Sending thoughts and hugs xxx

  139. lucie says:

    Oh I’m so sorry Ruth :( just got to work & as a cat lover that has made me so sad. So unfortunate of poor Ted & speaking for all AMR viewers..hope your okay!

  140. swede_gal says:

    I´m so sorry about little Ted.That breeder cannot have been serious and should get a serious whack over the head (and a good kick in the private parts!!).
    Little kittens are pretty much always on the go and if one of them seemed a bit unwell they should have checked them all with the vets, again. (grr!)

  141. Zahra says:

    Sending a prayer for Ted’s ikkle soul and a cuddle for his mummy too. Be strong. x

  142. Mel says:

    Oh Ruth I’m really sorry, as I said on twitter to you yesterday.. All I can say for the time you had him in your life you loved him, in that way.. little Ted, got to know you, so in that way he was lucky.. xx

  143. Courtney says:

    So sorry, Ruth! I know how much you were looking forward to your new kitten. Ted’s short life has served a great purpose in educating us all to be mindful of breeders and facilities. Though it is a painful loss, it is comforting to believe that Ted is in a nicer place now. I hope someone will investigate the breeder for the sake of the other cats and vulnerable little kittens in his care. Perhaps you should alert some authority to this situation (i.e. Humane Society, SPCA, etc.)… From a HUGE animal lover, thank you for doing all you could for sweet Ted, even though your time with him was so tragically short. God bless you & Mr. AMR at Christmastime! (((hugs)))

  144. That is so sad, I’m really sorry! :(

  145. Elena says:

    I am very sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you, Ruth.

    The exact same thing happend to me in march this year. I got the kitten from a vet(!) and she didn’t say anything about a disease. I mean – who can you trust with animals but not a vet..?

    Take care, xx

  146. Nadia says:

    Poor little darling, so very sad. xxxxxxxxx

  147. Oshin says:

    Poor little Ted, so sorry to hear the bad news. Hope you’re doing well.

  148. Carla says:

    That’s terribly unfair. Those breeders should be ashamed of themselves. May Ted be happy in kitty heaven.

  149. Dempeaux says:

    I’m so sorry for you Ruth. My parents went through something very similar with an Old English Sheep Dog. The breeder offered them another puppy but they declined, as it was all a bit too much for them. A year later they got a Border Collie, and thankfully he’s very strong and doing really well. Make sure you tell the breeder what you’ve been though. Hugs to you xxx

  150. leah says:

    This is such awful news, and I am so sorry. Life is so unfair sometimes, dammit! Rest in peace, little guy.

    p.s. No dunce’s hat for you, Ruth. Only hugs and kisses.

  151. Tora says:

    I am so sorry to hear about Ted. I hope you all have a lovely Christmas, and my thoughts are with you. :(

  152. Lulee says:

    This breaks my heart. I’ve been wanting a British shorthair for quite some time but they are hard to come by where I am. So I was hoping that Ted could be my vicarious Internet kitten :’( . Goodnight Ted. Hope you enjoy the big yarn ball in the sky!

  153. Erika says:

    Aww.. This news so breaks my heart. I don’t have any experience with breeders, as both my cats are shelter rescues. You would think they would do complete lab work to guarantee they are providing healthy pets. Please don’t let this experience dissuade you from adopting again. So many healthy cats need a happy home. My heart goes out to you.

  154. anna says:

    Oh Ruth, I am so so sorry. I have been in a similar situation and know how utterly heart wrenching it is. Ted was very lucky to have known you and been cared for by such a loving ‘mum’ for the short time that he was here x

  155. Moïra says:

    Of course, you’ve understood I meant the breeder shouldN’t have proposed him to sell ….

    Oh geez, just got up, I’m still sleepy LOL

    My deepest thoughts, Ruth ♥

  156. Moïra says:

    How a sad way to start the day, and for you to wait for Christmas …
    FIP is a f…. disease, I lost 3 cats because of it, many years ago and it was such a traumatic experience.

    You did the right thing, but I assume you know that, and people will tell you so. There’s nothing we can do against such a disease.

    I’m just questionning myself about his breeder: since how long is he doing breeding ? Was he lying to you when he said the other kitten was just “full” after he ate ?
    He should have proposed him to sell, and he should have known better about Ted, too, and get them to the vet immediatly.

    Ted was somehow lucky you found him and took care of him, with such a breeder.

    You get all my early thoughts, Ruth. May your sorrows heal with time.

    Please take care of you !

    xoxo, Moïra

  157. Zoe says:

    So sorry to hear this, Ruth. Poor little thing and poor you. I’m off to give my furballs a massive squeeze now. xx

  158. Annette says:

    Poor beautiful little Ted. You did your best for him and he was lucky to have you in his short life because you fought for him. Hope you get some kind of refund/compensation from the breeders if they’re responsible for putting you through this massive anguish and no doubt expense. I know it’s not about money but it doesn’t seem right that they should be able to do this again. You’d be doing any future kitten buyers a favour. Condolences Ruth :-( X

  159. Sam says:

    Dear Ruth, I am so sorry to hear that little Ted didn’t make it. You were inexperienced, the breeder wasn’t so they should not have sold you a poorly kitten, very sad. I know it’s very soon, but don’t let this experience put you off a kitten, as your little snapshot with Ted will have shown you, they bring wonderful fun and love into your life. Take care x

  160. Camille says:

    Ruth, I am sorry for Ted.
    The people that sold Ted to you are horrible persons.
    I juste hope this hard experience won’t discourage you to get a cat:they’re wonderfull animals !
    (Again, sorry for my bad english)
    Take care,

  161. Charlie V says:

    Ruth, there’s not really much I can say that will help. Only that I’m thinking of you (and indeed of your husband, but especially you), and that I’m terribly, terribly sorry. Getting a tad pretentious here, particularly considering I’m barely 20 (hey, I’ve always had delusions of grandeur) but it’s always said that it’s one of the great tragedies of humanity that no matter how long or short our lives end up being, we never feel we’ve been given enough time. And since animals – even ones that live to a ripe old age – are around for so much shorter a span of time, their tragedy is that since we unwittingly measure everything by our own lifespan, they only ever feel as though they’ve been with us a heartbeat. Ted may only have been here for a little while, but y’know… they’re intuitive little f**kers. You loved him, and he knew. He may only have had a short stay, but he shuffled off from a world in which he was loved and cared for and wanted, and he could feel that. That means far more than a lengthy existence filled with loveless, dried-up old nothingness. I’m so sorry he was taken from you, and I’ll knock on some wood that the often-towering-arsehole that is Life chucks some bloody terrific things in your direction asap – if not by way of compensation then at least as some sort of apology. Have a big hug from me. xxx

  162. Nemain says:

    Woah there. None of this is your fault – you did eveything you could have done and got stung by an unscrupulous, uncaring or just plain damn unobservant breeder. I’ve kept cats for years and still wouldn’t like my chances of spotting an illness in a cat I didn’t know well.

    What’s happened is really sad and you must be exhausted. But I fear it may be a bit harsh on yourself to presume that there was a point when, if you ‘d acted differently, this wouldn’t have happened. You did everything you could and it’s just really unfair that this happened. I guess things are quite bad right now, but do your best to take it easy.

    Ooh, I’m so bossy!

  163. Emily-May says:

    Heartbreaking news. :( Poor Ted.

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